If we were at a party and someone stood up and said,
“Hey everyone—look at me. I just added $10k to my salary!”
…we’d probably pause.
Smile politely.
Maybe even say “that’s awesome.”
But it would feel a little off.
Not because success is a bad thing—
but because announcing it like that feels less like confidence…
and more like needing to be seen.
So why does it feel normal online?
Somewhere along the way, numbers became a personality.
Followers. Likes. Views. Milestones.
And now it’s almost expected—
to post them, celebrate them, build an identity around them.
But I’ve never believed that’s why people are here.
People don’t stay because of your numbers.
They stay because of how you make them feel.
Because of your energy.
Your consistency.
Your presence.
There’s a difference between sharing a moment…
and needing validation for it.
And you can feel that difference instantly.
We see it in sports all the time:
Some athletes let their performance speak.
They show up, deliver, and move on.
Others need to remind you they’re winning.
Both get attention.
Only one earns lasting respect.
There’s something powerful about quiet confidence—
about not needing to announce every step forward
because you know exactly who you are without it.
That kind of presence doesn’t chase validation.
It doesn’t compete for attention.
It doesn’t need to prove anything.
It just is.
And people feel that.
That’s the kind of energy I’ll choose—
every time.
Just something I’ve been thinking about lately…
Love, Rissa 💜
Not many people have the confidence to talk that way. My early career was in a very competitive environment where individuals and team members were encouraged to compete with each other. To “win” at all costs to be the top salesperson, sales manager, regional manager. The final weeks of any period were littered with shady deals just to get over the line in first place. Interestingly there was hardly ever any mention of the true competitors – those who our business was competing with. Once we realised who the true competitors were we all started to move at pace in the same direction. Sharing of information was encouraged, teamworking became the norm recognising and harnessing individuals skills to support the achievement of the common goal. It’s not difficult to get up in the morning knowing you are going to get the satisfaction of using your skills to help a colleague achieve something they wouldn’t’t otherwise had achieved.